So, Adoption Is Easy

June 28, 2010

Adoption is easy. Well, according to TV is it, and TV never distorts the truth.

The other night we were watching the season finale of Glee. One of the main characters on show (Rachel) is adopted, and meets her biological mother (Shelby) late in the season. Another of the main characters (Quinn) is pregnant, and decides to give the baby up for adoption. In the finale Quinn has the baby, Shelby decides to take a new direction in life and ends up adopting Quinn’s baby.

According to the show, all you need to do to adopt a newborn is go to a hospital, fill out a few forms, and you can walk out with one of the extra babies.

Wow, if we had known that, our seven year process to bring a baby into our lives would have been a lot shorter. We live in a major metropolitan area, and there are lots of hospitals around. Even if one of them was out of babies, we could have just gone to another one.

When I posted about this episode on Facebook, a friend mentioned something similar from King Of Queens. In short, the couple adopts a three month old baby from China, and the process only takes a few weeks.

Why did our Chinese adoption take about two and half years?

Now, if you haven’t figured out I am a pretty sarcastic person. I don’t expect TV to reflect reality. Labor in a TV hospital takes about five minutes, babies come out perfectly clean, and mothers are ready to head up the PTA continue their work as a superhero the next day.

The problem is that the general public knows that the TV depiction of childbirth is distorted. The vast majority don’t know anything about adoption. Many people actually do think the process is simple. They don’t know about home studies, paper chases, criminal background checks, having to be fingerprinted, and waiting.

While I don’t expect TV to be totally accurate, and I understand how stretching reality adds to the entertainment value, it would be nice if adoption wasn’t used as a novelty.

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One Response to “So, Adoption Is Easy”

  1. M on November 9, 2010 12:50 pm

    I saw that you guys were at almost the same time as us in China and our daughter had the exact same care giver; and we too have a picture of her in the same jacket. However, I think we were told she was the orphanage director. Our little “Bo” was placed in our arms on 1/20/08.

    I just wanted to say hello as I’m in the process of starting a documentation for our daughter. Feel free to email me, if you like. Thank you for sharing your story.

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